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The Parent Child Relationship

The Parent Child Relationship is the most important thing you can focus on for your child's development.

We cannot grow and thrive if we don’t feel safe and secure.

Often times, we are too focused on tangible interventions, when the greatest intervention of all is the attachment relationship.

In order for development to proceed in a healthy manner in all domains (brain development, physical development, motor development, social development, language development, etc) a child must feel safe and secure.

When a child doesn’t have the guarantee of security, priorities shift from growing and thriving to survival.

This is why, for example, we see language delays in children exposed to domestic violence.

  • I get asked all of the time:

  • How can I help my child have better sibling relationships?

  • How can I help my child do better in school?

  • How can I help my child manage their emotions?

  • How can I help my child’s self-esteem?

  • and more

A strong parent-child relationship is an essential foundation. We can send a child to classes, try print-out sheets with ideas, use scripts from Instagram, but if the parent-child relationship isn’t secure, none of these will be truly effective.

This means that you have an extraordinary opportunity to help your child grow by nurturing your relationship with them. When people tell you that you are coddling them, or not focusing enough on punishment, with confidence, you can know that you are actually setting them up for future success in all domains of life.

Please note: There are children with developmental delays that also need outside support from professionals. This post is not stating that a parent-child relationship can overcome all developmental barriers, but it is saying that a parent-child relationship is an essential foundation.

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This post originally appeared on the @babiesandbrains Instagram account, and it has been published here with permission.


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