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Thinking about your unborn baby



To think of a baby as both conceived and conceived of highlights the biological and psychological conception that takes place in the transition to parenthood.


Ways of conceiving both biologically and psychologically are varied and personal. Your baby’s biological conception may have been achieved ‘naturally’ or through assisted conception, you may or may not be a biological parent to your infant, and while conception often occurs within a partnership this is not always the case.

From your perspective, the pregnancy may be planned, wanted and timely – or not. Obvious as well as discrete physical changes accompany the biological conception and pregnancy period – hormonal changes, physical symptoms such as morning sickness and changes in physical shape and appearance as the pregnant mother’s belly grows with her foetus. These changes can serve as reminders of a changing reality and usually assist in the move towards parenthood.


While the biological conception and changes proceed with some predictability, a psychological conception is also taking place. Not only is your foetus growing but so too are your imaginings, fantasies and worries about your baby – who she will be, how she will look, the qualities she might inherit as well as those you hope she doesn’t. Your wonderings might also include thoughts about how you will be as a parent. Fantasies about your baby and your parenting are bound to be imbued with mixed feelings – joy, anticipation, wonder, worry, annoyance, and perhaps despair. In these conceptions, new ways of being are born, while others are inevitably lost. For instance, there may be aspects of your identity that are lost forever and parts of yourself that become awakened and are given opportunity to develop. So, these processes of conception and antenatal change bring both expected and unexpected gains and losses that need thinking about.


Sometimes fantasies about your baby can be so strong or feel so certain that it does not allow space for your baby to be as she is. Babies come with their own temperament, some of which you might expect and find endearing, while other parts may be a surprise or irritating. It is helpful to hold in mind that your baby is a unique and separate entity and that getting to know her will occur over time.

If you can allow an ‘unknowing’ space in your mind, your baby can have some freedom to grow and develop as the little person she is, and you will have a greater time seeing and enjoying her as she develops.


This post originally appeared on centreforperinatalpsychology.com.au and it has been published here with permission.



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